Four Steps To Overcome Your Fears and Anxiety

"Of all base passions, fear is the most accursed."

William Shakespeare

"You are the owner of your mind, feeling the fear or brave it is depending how we deal with it. The more you balance your feeling and mind, the closer you are as self-mastery."

Ainy Fauziyah

Do you feel fears or anxiety sometimes or on and on? How did you manage your fears? Did you just accept it, struggle with it or work around it? Have you discussed with yourself, asking why your fears or anxiety is happened and what have made you feel that? If I said that nothing in life is to be feared but it is only to be understood would you agree that? Well, it’s sound I have too many questionsJ. Ok, let’s discuss it.

First and foremost, I would like you assessed yourself and understand that you always have a choice about how to respond to and deal with fear. You can cave into it, struggle with it, accept it, or work around it. You always have a choice, a choice you can make again and again or that you can change based on your assessment of what is best for you.

Based on your assessment, what has made you in fears? Is it about panic and confusion; saving face; triggers avoidance of the facts; magnifies danger and vulnerability; you want to stop in doing something or originates in your ego mind?

Second, fear is only to be understood. To understood your fears, you need to shift your mind from thinking : From The First Feeling To The Second Feeling promote panic and confusion promotes clarity and purpose saving face stepping out of your comfort zone triggers avoidance of the facts heightens awareness and perception magnifies danger and vulnerability calls on our capacity to respond to danger you want to stop in doing something wants you to move forward powerfully and safely originates in your ego mind a whole-system response

It is helpful to realize that not all fears are created equal. W. Timothy Gallwey and Robert Kriegel devote an entire chapter to two kinds of fear in their book; Inner Skiing which they call the first feeling magnifies danger and vulnerability while minimizing your sense of competence.

The second feeling is mobilizing your whole being for effective action. It includes a series of marvelous physiological changes that prepare the body for peak performance. The second feeling has focused attention, provided adrenaline for extraordinary effort, and sharpened. It also promotes effective action while the first feeling paralyzes us and prevents action.

Third, let go of all the ways you may have stifled its messages to you. Please do not keep yourself stuck by looking for perfection on this point. All that is needed is that you make a beginning by acknowledging the ways that you turn away from your body's wisdom and affirming that you are willing to be different. You do not need to know how you will change this, only that you desire to do so. You can transform the way you deal with fear by simply holding from day to day a curious wondering. Fourth, I am waiting your action and practice. Do it now or you would waste your life time. Please send me your good news and I am pleased to discuss with you further.